Veteran Cop / Rookie Wife

  1. I suppose the term “rookie wife” applies to me because we officially said “I do” October 28, 2016.
  2. He IS a “veteran cop” with 20 years of experience.  He has a $h!t load of pins, including the 20 Years of Service pin, to prove it.
  3. Personally, I don’t think I technically fall under the “rookie” category and here’s why:

I’ve known my LEO hubby since I was 15 years old.  Back then, he was a “trouble maker”, “bad boy”, etc.  I never imagined he would be a cop one day (nor did I think I’d ever give him the time of day LOL)

In 2013, we started texting back and forth.  I knew him from work (I worked for a prosecuting attorney) and we were both in the beginning stages of divorce.  He lived and worked in the county I wanted to move too so I would ask him about certain location (safe/not safe) or his opinions on the schools and so forth.

That fall, I moved to a great apartment complex which happened to be across the road from the apartment complex he’d moved into.  Over that summer, during our life changes and challenges of divorcing when you have children, I had come to rely on him so much.  He had quickly become my best friend and my shoulder to cry on and I had in turn become his best friend and person to vent to.

Because we had children close in age, we began spending our weekends hanging out.  I wanted my children to “know” someone locally and he wanted his child to have other kids his age to “hang out with” who understood what it felt like to be in his shoes (divorce is hard on any child).  We spent time with his fellow deputies that also had children and by Christmas that year I think everyone pretty much had an idea we were dating or at least we should’ve been.

So, skip forward to October of 2014….  We started discussing living together to save money on bills.  After approving it with all three children and them happily agreeing, we moved in together in January of 2015.  The following months were rough, I’ll admit that.  We had to get used to each other in the same apartment.  I had to get used to LEO gear being EVERYWHERE!!! Then I found out my grandfather had cancer at the age of 94 and only a few short months to live.  By the end of July, my LEO was my rock.  He was always there for me no matter what.  If he was out on a call and I texted him I was falling apart… He was headed to comfort me before the next call came in.  I don’t know what I would’ve done without him so when he proposed not long after the death of my grandfather, I said “YES”! *Note: he proposed to me every month from January 2014-August 2015 and I always said “I’m not ready yet” so me finally saying yes was a pretty big deal.  Also, prior to me saying “yes”, he’d never presented a ring to me LOL

I began planning our wedding and had hoped to marry in February of 2016 but then in January, all hell broke loose.  I’m not going to go into detail in this post but long story short I almost lost my LEO forever.  Luckily, by nothing short of a miracle, we made it through that horrific ordeal.  It’s taken many months for me to claim the title of LEO WIFE but finally….

Now some of you will say it still makes me a rookie wife… So here’s the difference:  July 2016 when the officers in Dallas and the officers in Baton Rouge were shot/ambushed, I had to push away any fears I had, put on my big girl panties, and reach out to all the wives on his shift.  My hubby is a supervisor so I’m very familiar with the deputies under him, above him and their wives and children.  I was dating my LEO when the Ferguson riots began so I knew how everyone one of us felt especially since this was worse than Ferguson.  These were cops being shot simply because of their jobs only.  They were innocent.

All of this happened while I was in a completely different state on vacation.  I talked to my fellow LEO wives, fiances, and girlfriends via text, phone, Facebook, Facebook chat.  I checked on them daily while our men were out on the road and I heard them cry.  I wanted to fall apart as well but “veteran wives” do not fall apart.  This is why I don’t consider myself a rookie.

I’d love to hear from you.  Are you a rookie wife or a veteran wife?

More to come ~ The LEO Wife Life (CH)